Christians sex and dating

This data supports a 2011 Relevant Magazine poll that revealed that 80 percent of "young, unmarried Christians have had sex" and that "two-thirds have been sexually active in the last year."While the findings of a 2012 National Association of Evangelicals (NAE) and Grey Matter Research poll did not show outcomes as high as the two previous polls, according to its research, 44 percent of unmarried evangelicals between ages 18-29 said that they had sex, including 25 percent who said they had had sex in the last three months.

Battling against the "purity culture"Emily Maynard, 28, a writer from Portland, Ore., has witnessed many of her friends rejecting abstinence, in what she interprets as them pushing back against the "purity culture," or the conservative sexual and dating norms with which they were raised."It's a family, church and social system that favors the idea of courtship.

But while in college, Lindsey "gave her heart to Christ." There, for the first time, she became convicted that premarital sex is wrong.

As their friendship progressed, Cindy and Rob's opposing viewpoints caused some hot debates.

It also forced them both to take a second look at their convictions.

Instead, she entered and exited relationships frequently, often sleeping with the men she was dating."Even though I knew it was wrong, I continued to have sex outside of marriage," Lindsey told The Christian Post. Because when you're single you don't want to be lonely.""I was the girl that broke up with one boyfriend and had another one on speed-dial—that afternoon I'd already be going out with somebody else.

I kept a boyfriend because I liked the attention," she continued.

For Lindsey, her behavior was not simply a result of her conforming to the sexual values of her non-Christian peers.

Instead, she had friends from church with similar sexual ethics and even dated and became sexually involved with a man who was serving at the same church that she was."We all went to the church. We said we loved the Lord but we ignored the scriptures that said that fornication is a sin," said Lindsey.Lindsey eventually cut off all people that had been a part of that lifestyle.Several years ago she got married and moved to Atlanta, where, now 31, she is the founder and CEO of Pinky Promise, an organization that encourages single and married women to "rise above cultural pressures and to "stay determined to live for Christ regardless of their circumstances."Only 11 percent of Christians are waiting until marriage before having sex While Christians may see Lindsey's premarital sexual behavior as typical for that outside their faith, a new Christian Mingle study suggests that it is increasingly commonplace for Christians to sleep together outside of a marital context.I think there are a lot of people entering the dating world who are jaded with what a lot of churches and purity culture promises you," she added.While the backlash might be true for some subsets of evangelicals, according to the NAE poll, most Christians attributed their sexual activity to culture, followed by lacking a strong biblical foundation and "living in the moment."The Church is following secular culture opposed to leading by example Lisa Anderson, who is the director of Boundless, Focus on the Family's singles and young adults ministries, said that she was not surprised at Christians' high tolerance for premarital sex."Generally, if you look at the dating landscape in the church today, it looks very similar to that of the world.There were phrases like 'Don't date unless you're ready to get married' or at the age where you can support yourself on your own.

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